16-year-old Tai Lopez received his grandfather’s letter that said – “you will never find all the answers from one person. If you are lucky you will find a handful of people to show you the way.”
Tai Lopez found five mentors.
“Good artists copy, great artists steal.” – Pablo Picasso
Stealing other people’s ideas requires a lot of humility.
“If I have seen further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.” – Isaac Newton
Not learning like in school (visual, auditory, kinesthetic), but with osmosis- cow doesn’t tell anything, but baby cow walks and eats like her.
School system is broken, I must be a continual learning machine, making predictions in an unpredictable environment, you don’t just know English (you could be born in China), we have the ability to learn any language, we’re not hard-wired with only one, we have the capacity to learn. By not having that you can’t experience full human experience.
“If you can hitch on the right horse, stand on the right shoulders- automatically forward- rising tide raises all ships.”
You experience more human experience with being a self learning machine.
Osmosis- they rub off on me
Poor people should take rich people to dinner, 70% of communication is non-verbal; look at how they carry themselves, how they handle aggression from other people, how they speak.
If you only copy 60%, you don’t know if you copied the good parts.
Mentors were down the same path as you.
How do I pull off this thing called life?
The first bird takes all the air, so others can fly easier.
33% of your time- people below me (self-esteem boost), I can help, life is a spectrum (I help people, people above me help me), then 33% of my time I spend with people on my level; I will lose some people (“he who won’t leave father and mother…is not worthy of me”- Jesus said that) and most importantly- spend 33% of your time with people that are 10-20 years ahead of me preferably in the same industry you’re at, or having exactly what you want.
Pain or gain- tough, masses can’t do it, makes them uncomfortable, they shy away, make fun or are jealous. Have the character to do it! Don’t be a hater, like others.
Life is often intolerable for us- diversionary tactics, see it with the clear eye; they’re ahead of me and they got there with hard work. They make me feel uncomfortable, like lifting a mental weight, you need to lift a heavy one to get a good life.
When you feel the pain you’re growing.
ROI- Tai being with top businessmen; they were laughing at him, he felt worse; people you respect laughing at you, but he learned.
Enzymes are expensive to make, the body won’t make them if you don’t need it- use it or lose it (body saves energy).
You need that uncomfortable feeling to push you. Mentors won’t give you cookies and tell you to try your best. They’ll be busy and a little rough around the edges- it’s my job as a student to get out of them what they’re trying to teach me.
Bill Gates made people cry; tough to work for, that’s how it is, the real world.
They won’t be professional mentors; to get those, go to college, you need to toughen up!
Learn with osmosis, the law is simple, but not easy, conflict and them yelling and teaching you (get used to it).
“I don’t mind carrying a man, but I don’t want to drag him.”
Bill made them cry, but they got millions.
Best mentors do things.
Tom Hanks; toughen up, they’re not saints, if you want a saint, go to church.
You can’t look for perfection in mentors, feeling uncomfortable, feeling a little burn… Mentors teaching you real- estate might have a nasty divorce, you don’t need to copy it all, there are not right or wrong mentors; if you move on you may not find another one.
“I don’t want to learn from someone who abandoned his daughter”- black and white thinking; he’s just a man, we all are. There are just some people that are worth betting on more.
The devil’s in the details.
People that had mentors: Einstein, Jay Z, Bill Gates, Jack Dorsey (Twitter), Martin Luther King Jr., Dalai Lama (Gandhi), Alexander the Great, Aristotle, Plato- never-ending pattern, you need some of them in person!
Karate kid- when he’s angry, he realizes that all the pieces fit together, even when you don’t see how, mentors see ahead, know in ways you can’t understand.
Even if you are not being taught and helped by him you can still learn how he talks and moves. Don’t expect they will use all their time teaching, I have to become an absorption machine. Be persistent- “nothing is impossible to those who try.”
Persistent widow: “I’m afraid you’ll do something, so I’ll do what you ask.”
“Half of the reason I succeed is by just showing up”- year in, year out (Woody Allen)
Dan Cook 17-37 years (20 years of doing comedy shows where no one came).
Set 18 month in person goals- they need some time, take it slow it’s not short, but in 18 years things would change too much (Drucker).
Back signing sends a letter, don’t just ask after 10 seconds… maybe interview them for an article (little phone talk), they get some exposure.
Konti Infernos (send a gift)
Native Americans went to war with gifts, it’s not bribing in a negative way, be creative (not just a letter).
Be willing to give up on some people. If the relationship is not in the best interest, move on.
Nothing is perfect, everything ends and the end is not good or bad, it’s a natural process.
There are summer, winter… when’s the end and when the beginning?
A circle never ends, but you can only go around so many times before you’re gone.
“I failed with this mentor”- black and white
You can’t make friends with the dead- use books. Get the best, reach for the top.
3 gives for 1 reward- answer their questions, don’t be clingy, desperate, be more interesting, read more, be the best to talk to. If the relationship is not in best interest move on. Books are one ingredient, but you still need somebody you can talk to. You want to be a good investment for their time. Start now, even if you can only do it 5 minutes. Don’t try to figure everything out on your own, go outward.
Write down 10 potential mentors and strategies you’ll use.