The first few steps are the most important.
“To get what I want, I have to deserve what I want. The world isn’t a crazy enough place to reward a bunch of undeserving people.” – Tai Lopez
Most people see themselves as victims. They have lottery thinking mentality. They constantly think that tomorrow will be better and they keep thinking, waiting and wishing while nothing really changes.
“But Tai, is he worth a damn?” Is that person really worth a lot? We are not talking only about the money. Is that person also in great shape, happy and in love?
I first have to deserve a million dollars in order to get it. I must constantly be asking myself – “how big is my deserving factor?” To lose twenty pounds, I have to deserve to lose twenty pounds. I must have an incredible awareness of my environment. One example would be the fact that people look at their keyboard thousands of times and still don’t know what the F7 button does. I must become more aware of what is going on around me.
There are three kinds of people
- those who watch things happen,
- those who make things happen and
- those who wonder what happened.
The average person doesn’t know practically anything, they just wonder what happened to them.
Warren Buffett has a great game: if I would have to choose one student back in high school that was my classmate and I would get 10% of whatever he makes for the rest of his life, how would I choose that person? Would I choose the most athletic person? Perhaps the smartest person in class? Would I bet on myself?
I must change myself in order for my deserving factor to go through the roof.
In that Warren Buffett’s game, Tai Lopez would look for awareness because awareness is the fastest way to increase the intangibles.
What really counts are the intangibles because Ph.D.’s do not confuse a billionaire’s brain. The billionaire always wants to know more about the author the book, rather than just focusing on the fact that the author has a Ph.D.
If I wouldn’t bet on myself, I must really get the intangibles that will boost my deserving factor through the roof. I must work on developing wisdom, persistence, and awareness.
“There is a time to smell the roses but that time is NOT right now.” – Joel Salatin
Tai Lopez did not see that the cow doors were open and the cows were able to escape. He was focused on the beauty of nature at that time. There is nothing wrong with being present in the moment and enjoying your environment but I have to choose that time carefully.
Helen Keller had developed the sense of touch so powerfully, she could live a complete life without being able to see, hear, and talk while other people complain about everything and are unsuccessful while having all of those abilities.
Tai Lopez thinks that we should be asking ourselves – “which kid makes the observations that no other kid is making?” That is a great sign that he is highly aware of his surroundings.
Life, as we find it, is too hard for us; it brings us too many pains, disappointments, and impossible tasks. In order to bear it, we cannot dispense with palliative measures… There are perhaps three such measures: powerful deflections, which cause us to make light of our misery; substitutive satisfactions, which diminish it; and intoxicating substances, which make us insensible to it. – Sigmund Freud
Sigmund Freud suggests, that rather than drinking and developing other habits, that makes us insensible and numb to the pain that the life brings us, we have to focus on the situation rather than distracting ourselves from it.
Most people complain about the externals while they need to understand, that if you don’t do much for the world, the world won’t return you a huge reward. Machines are already replacing minimal wage workers at the time of this article. That is why I have to go on an upward path to deserve more and more. The world would be unfair if Arnold Schwarzenegger would lift heavy weights six hours per day and would remain fat and weak, while others that don’t exercise would remain healthy and strong.
Let’s think about this idea for a second – would I REALLY want to live in that world? I wouldn’t know what to do because the basic laws wouldn’t apply. I would need to know exactly which laws apply in order to achieve what I want.
“I want a life that has the right rules so that I can plan it out” I need to deserve it and do certain steps in order to be and then stay healthy – that is my deserving factor.
It took Bill Gates 19 years (from age 12 to 31) to become a billionaire with an IQ of 160. He worked relentlessly for 11 years, while not taking even a single day off. He deserves all the respect and all the value that he possesses. The World is actually fairer than the media and people around me will tell me.
Equality is good because I get what I deserve. Trauma is not an excuse because most people have traumas in life. So did Nelson Mandela but he chose not to be bothered by them. Nelson forgave people for locking him in prison for 27 years. He deserves all of the respect and awards that he gets.
Would you rather live a thousand years ago? Tai Lopez thinks that we are going in the right direction.
The world is fair in a sense that everyone eventually gets what they deserve. People would rather watch Michael Jordan play basketball than watching me play basketball. I have to play a bigger part in the world to get a greater return.
A simple but effective exercise to start practicing my awareness is to stand naked in front of a mirror. In whatever shape I currently am, I have to admit that I probably deserve this. If I am in a great shape, I probably have decent habits around health and fitness. Similarly, I have to understand money and the habits around making and keeping the money in order to become wealthy.
While others are posting pictures on Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram, LeBron James is up at 4 am every morning practicing basketball. I may want to deserve more, which is why I have to do more!
Watch the TED talk – John Wooden: The difference between winning and succeeding.
Kareem Abdul-Jabbar is just one player. I am not competing with the world, I am competing with myself.
“Spend each day trying to be a little wiser than you were when you woke up. Discharge your duties faithfully and well. Step by step you get ahead, but not necessarily in fast spurts. But you build discipline by preparing for fast spurts. Slug it out one inch at a time, day by day. At the end of the day – if you live long enough – most people get what they deserve.” – Charlie Munger
There are a lot of steps in the 67 steps program but awareness is always the key – develop it and stop blaming others.
Jennifer Lopez – it’s not about the voice that she has (it’s not that simple). Society wants a certain music, dance moves and character. Even if she is not the greatest singer in the world, the whole package that she is offering is exactly what people want.
Different people have different names for the intangibles – the ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle calls them “a moral character.” They are a set of traits that anybody can possess.
However, balance is difficult. It’s one thing to be able to sing but it’s another to be able to dance, move, sing and talk the way Jennifer Lopez does. It’s about the whole package including her lawyers, the studio, tours and the overall experience that she delivers. Jennifer Lopez is exceptional at what she does.
By watching these people I may think it’s easy to do all of that but it’s not! There are a lot of elements that they have to master but it is possible to master them over several years in small steps and while having the intangibles – staying persistent, humble and confident in my abilities.
Always think back on Warren Buffet’s high-school betting game – be wise, focused and highly aware. Make sure I am not the person I would have never bet on. Achilles’ heel is not knowing what I don’t know and extreme self-awareness is the best trait to defend myself from not knowing what I don’t know.
Be aware of how others are doing something. Learn and keep good qualities that I observe, while flushing bad habits out of my system. Lack of awareness will make me into a failure. Ideas will NOT make you rich. My character will make me wealthy.
Do I want to have nicer things, loyal friends, better health, and happiness? Then I must deserve all of it! Really think about it – nobody wants to talk to a shy person who never talks back. If I want to have better connections, I must become the type of a person that people enjoy spending time with.
- From 1 to 10 – what is my deserving factor, my awareness and how do I increase it?
- Would I have bet on myself?
- What would I change to become the person I would bet on?
- What is my plan to start deserving better things?”
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